Voici Comment les Couples Heureux Savent Résoudre Leurs Disputes

<p> Tous les partenaires s'engueulent parfois, mais ceux qui sont comblés savent aborder ces différends d'une manière assez spécifique. </p> <p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/BB1m7jTU" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/BB1m7jTU.jpg"/> </p> <p class="img-copyright"> Unsplash - Korney Violin </p> <p> Il est démontré que selon une étude américaine qui s’est penchée sur les problèmes conjugaux fréquents ainsi que sur la façon dont les partenaires résolvent leurs différends, les duos les plus épanouis ont pour habitude d’axer leur attention sur des solutions concrètes plutôt que de s’enliser dans l’examen de désaccords mineurs. </p> <p> Une recherche effectuée par des scientifiques américains et présentée dans la revue <em> Family Process </em> a examiné les problèmes de discorde les plus fréquents chez <span> Deux groupes d'épouses hétérosexuelles censées être comblées ont été étudiés : le premier groupe comprenait 57 paires autour de la trentaine, unis depuis environ neuf ans en moyenne, tandis que le deuxième regroupait 70 binômes surpassant l'âge des soixante-dix ans, ayant scellé leur union il y a plus de quatre décennies. </span> </p> <p> <span> Parmi les thèmes provoquant le plus de conflits dans ces relations, on trouvait la vie intime, les tâches ménagères et les activités de loisir. </span> <span> <span> et </span> Les problèmes de santé étaient les premiers mentionnés. En revanche, la famille, la jalousie ou encore la religion figuraient parmi les causes de désaccord considérées comme étant moins sérieuses. </span> </p> <p> Ainsi, les scientifiques ont remarqué que les conjoints unis et satisfaits dans leur mariage concentraient leurs efforts sur la résolution de problèmes simples pour lesquels des solutions pratiques sont disponibles. Ils tentaient, dans toute mesure du possible, d'éviter les questions plus ardues et compliquées à régler. </p> <p> Voilà donc un point important à retenir pour mieux gérer les disputes dans son couple et rester uni longtemps : mieux vaut se concentrer sur les problèmes qui appellent une réponse concrète, et si possible laisser carrément tomber les autres à chaque fois que c'est possible. Cela permettra aux deux partenaires de se recentrer sur ce qui est vraiment important pour leur couple, en évitant de se focaliser sur des détails dont ils ne se rappelleront finalement sûrement pas dans quelques mois ou quelques années. </p> <p> C'est aussi une façon de préserver l'énergie, la passion amoureuse, l'échange et la communication saine au sein du couple. </p> <p> Découvrez maintenant <strong> les 5 erreurs à ne pas faire pour être heureux ensemble </strong> et <strong> les 15 piliers d'un couple uni – et ça va sûrement vous surprendre, mais le sexe n'en fait pas partie ! </strong> </p> <p> <strong> <p> Lire aussi : </p> <p> ♥ La faute la plus fréquente commise par les couples est </p> <p> ♥ <strong> <br/> Voici 5 astuces essentielles pour maintenir une relation durable : <br/> 1. Communiquer ouvertement et fréquemment. <br/> 2. Cultiver l'amour et le respect mutuel chaque jour. <br/> 3. Accepter les différences de votre partenaire sans jugement. <br/> 4. Prendre du temps ensemble pour renforcer vos liens. <br/> 5. Chercher constamment à résoudre tout conflit pacifiquement. <br/> Ces stratégies peuvent aider à construire une union solide sur la longue durée. </strong> </p> <p> ♥ Les duos qui s'unissent pour le faire sont plus comblés que la plupart des autres. </p> </strong> </p>

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Philosophy's Purpose: Wonder, Objectivity, and the Big Question

<p> <p> On May 30, Nepal — After spending time updating study materials ahead of an exam in 2014, I encountered a perplexing query one bright day: “How does labeling things and ideas influence their significance?” To clarify, what would happen if the true term for gravity isn’t actually ‘gravity’ at all? Does humanity unwittingly commit a mistake each time we misname entities and notions, thereby altering their essence? </p> <p> If insight doesn’t provide an answer, maybe compassion could help us understand that my unease isn’t isolated; many struggle with addressing certain queries purely based on instinct. On countless occasions, each one of us, as distinct members of humanity, encounters inquiries that go beyond what tangible knowledge can explain. Sometimes these questions are straightforward like ‘What is God?’ and at other times they delve deeper into fundamentals such as ‘How much of this can we truly confirm?’ </p> <p> Queries spanning the gamut from curiosity to precision about our understanding of self often find their place within the vast, sometimes overwhelming domain of philosophy. This Middle English term ‘philosophy’ stems from the ancient Greek phrase philosophia; here, phileo signifies an affection for and Sophia denotes wisdom, leading to the translation of 'philosophy' as 'the love of wisdom.' </p> <p> In ancient Greek times, when philosophers initiated their exploration into the nature of self and existence, the prevailing belief among intellectuals was that philosophical thought begins with amazement. This idea is well illustrated through Socrates' dialogue with Theaetetus in Plato’s work titled *The Theaetetus*, wherein Socrates remarks, “Awe is what sets apart those who engage in philosophy. Indeed, nothing else serves as an origin for philosophy...” Similarly, Aristotle supports this concept, stressing the importance of intellectual curiosity. He expressed his view on this matter in *Metaphysics* stating that human beings started engaging in philosophy primarily because they were filled with awe about the unknown aspects around them. </p> <p> Related story </p> <p> Publications to kickstart your journey into philosophy </p> <p> Many centuries later, David Hume, an adherent of empirical thought, introduced doubts into the discussion, grounding skepticism at the core of his philosophical approach. Meanwhile, Immanuel Kant, a proponent of German transcendentalism, posited that reverence for both the universe and ethical principles initiates humanity’s quest toward enlightenment. In his seminal work, *Critique of Pure Reason*, this rationalist asserted, “Two things inspire me with ever-increasing astonishment and awe—the star-studded skies above my head and the moral code within myself.” Despite their starkly differing interpretations, each contribution enriched the edifice of amazement without fundamentally undermining it. </p> <p> Arthur Schopenhauer, a pessimistic existentialist, positioned suffering at the forefront and dismissed the notion of marvel, whereas G.W.F. Hegel elevated the significance of historical contemplation over awe. In the Preface to the Philosophy of Right, Hegel asserts that "philosophy grasps its era in thoughts." More recently, Ludwig Wittgenstein, who spearheaded the shift towards linguistics within philosophical studies, posited in his seminal work, Philosophical Investigations, that philosophy aims to combat the entanglement of our intellect through language, thus refocusing philosophical inquiry onto the limitations of language itself. </p> <p> The ancient world’s preoccupation with marvels and thus questioning, despite some recent distractions, appears to mark the initial stage in humanity's pursuit of wisdom. As emphasized, philosophers—the quintessential brow-furrowers and contemplative hand-on-chin thinkers—have dedicated millennia to the deceptively straightforward query, “Where does philosophy begin?” Yet, they still haven’t arrived at a definitive response. </p> <p> If we fail to provide an objective response to even a single query, thus getting stuck on the issue of wisdom, what purpose does philosophy serve? However, it’s not merely about one question; as students delve into the murky waters of established philosophical understanding, they discover that many—if not all—philosophical queries lack definitive answers. In light of this, why engage in philosophy at all? </p> <p> Initially, engaging in philosophical texts offers us an opportunity to challenge our instincts, thereby enhancing our ability to think critically. When we encounter a piece of philosophy that aligns with our natural inclinations, it confirms these instincts. However, delving deeper into similar material forces us to examine whether those initial reactions hold up under scrutiny. This process creates room for critique and fosters critical analysis. </p> <p> Apart from honing critical thinking skills, engaging in philosophical activities, as Wittgenstein pointed out, brings us nearer to comprehending our inquiries by clarifying the ambiguities in our language when we use intricate terms. Through this process, we refine human communication. </p> <p> As philosophy deals with guiding our lives, it has consistently served as a means to uncover the concept of the "good life." By directly influencing ethics and morality—which subsequently shape disciplines like politics and economics—philosophy steers human society toward this pursuit of an ideal existence. </p> <p> The lack of objectivity in philosophy does not necessarily detract from its appealing nature. In fact, contemporary philosopher Richard Rorty suggests redirecting philosophical efforts toward fostering human unity instead of pursuing objectivity. This perspective brings comfort to emerging philosophers who find liberation in Rorty’s assertion that philosophy revolves around exchanges—conversations, dialogues, discussions, and debates—rather than seeking definitive truths. </p> <p> Published by HT Digital Content Services with authorization from Republica. </p> </p> Provided by Syndigate Media Inc. 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Neuroventa Revelada: Entendiendo los Secretos del Consumo

<img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1qBVYH" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1qBVYH.jpg"/> <p> ¿Qué motiva a las personas para querer hacer compras? ¿Cómo interviene nuestro cerebro cuando tomamos decisiones de compra? Esas preguntas han sido el motor de mi investigación durante los últimos años y están reflejadas en mi libro más reciente. </p> <p> Si sos como yo, seguramente alguna vez fuiste de compras solo para caminar o disfrutar de un delicioso café, sin tener la menor intención de adquirir algo, pero al final terminaste saliendo con varias bolsas rebosantes de ropa, perfume y otros objetos recién comprados. <strong> <em> ¿Qué ocurrió durante esa acción? </em> Simplemente, lo que ocurrió fue que tu cerebro decidió comprar sin importar tu deseo de no hacerlo. </strong> </p> <p> Lo que ocurrió es que determinados estímulos, como una vidriera muy llamativa, una muy buena oferta y el ambiente del shopping han logrado activar el sistema de recompensas de tu cerebro para que se libere un neurotransmisor llamado <strong> dopamina </strong> . <em> ¿Qué genera la dopamina? </em> Este neurotransmisor y hormona hace que se enciendan tus impulsos y lleves a cabo una acción en pos de obtener aquello, o dicho de otra manera, hace que vayas en busca de la recompensa, que en este caso se trata de lo que acabas de comprar. Y esto ocurre una y otra vez sin que te des cuenta de ello, hasta podría decirse que tu cerebro te engaña y toma el control de todas las decisiones, incluso aquellas que no quisieras tomar. ¿ <strong> Alguna vez decidiste empezar una dieta y de repente la interrumpís al ver algo dulce y rico en una panadería? ¿Te imaginas porque sucede eso? </strong> En efecto, de nuevo la dopamina asume el poder de tus impulsos. </p> <p> El 95 % de las decisiones que tomamos los humanos son procesos que se dan en forma involuntaria, inconsciente y automática. Pensemos que nuestro cerebro se encuentra programado para sobrevivir, por lo que decide y nos mueve hacia acciones que estén dirigidas a alcanzar este objetivo. Es por ello que sentimos impulso por la comida y el sexo, la necesidad de pertenecer a un grupo social, encontrar pareja, como así también el miedo que nos embarga ante lo desconocido. De ahí se desprenden acciones que, desde una mirada biológica, lo que buscan es alimento, reproducción, pertenencia y seguridad. </p> <p> Hoy sabemos que los seres humanos no somos conscientes de la gran mayoría de las decisiones que tomamos. <strong> De acuerdo con estudios de neurociencia, el cerebro toma una decisión varios segundos antes de que seamos conscientes de que lo ha hecho. </strong> Lo cierto es que todos respondemos en forma predeterminada a ciertos estímulos que se encuentran grabados en lo más profundo de nuestro ser y que corresponden con la evolución de nuestra especie. </p> <p> Es simple notar cuándo alguien opta por adquirir un producto o decidirse por no hacerlo; pero lo que permanece invisible son los factores internos detrás de esa elección. Justamente ahí radica la motivación, y con ello, el funcionamiento del mecanismo de recompensa. </p> <p> Además, muchas de nuestras motivaciones están influenciadas por nuestro entorno, lo cual significa que dependen del período histórico, del contexto específico y de las prácticas culturales sociales propias de la era en la que nos criamos. Este aspecto presenta un desafío particular para quienes venden productos o servicios hoy día: ¿cómo transmitir valor a diversas generaciones? </p> <p> Imaginemos que mientras los baby boomers (1946 - 1964) se sienten atraídos por adquirir artículos provenientes de compañías establecidas y confiables, apreciando características como solidez y resistencia, la generación Z (1997 - 2009), en cambio, tiende hacia compras impulsadas por elementos novedosos y ecológicamente conscientes, poniendo mayor énfasis en proteger al entorno antes que en mantener objetos duraderos. Esta distinción surge debido a cómo han vivido cada una de estas cohortes dentro de sus respectivos ambientes sociales: para los primeros, un panorama marcado por la constancia y certeza; para estos últimos, uno caracterizado por la necesidad de adaptarse rápidamente ante cambios constantes. Desde este punto de vista, gracias a procesos neurológicos denominados "neuroplasticidad", donde las experiencias influyen directamente sobre el cerebro humano, es posible entender mejor dicha divergencia. Así pues, si bien los miembros de la Generación Baby Boomer ven en la persistencia y fiabilidad factores cruciales tanto para productos comerciales como personales, aquellos pertenecientes a Generation Z prefieren firmar por marcas comprometidas socialmente además de ser respetuosas con nuestro mundo natural, buscando siempre opciones que les ofrezcan comodidades prácticas sin descuidar su independencia durante todo el proceso desde la elección hasta finalizar cualquier transacción comercial. En otras palabras, buscan realizar compras, efectuar pagos y obtener sus mercancías de forma flexible y autónoma. <em> cuando, donde y como </em> lo prefieran. </p> <p> Como observamos, esta metodología actúa como un instrumento robusto para detectar intereses, motivaciones, comportamientos y valores compartidos. Además, queda claro que el foco no reside en el producto en sí, sino en el valor que encarna. Lo distintivo radica en la forma en que estos productos transmiten ese valor y poseen la potencialidad de liberarlo. <strong> dopamina. </strong> En efecto, la venta consiste en conectar con valores y en activar el sistema de recompensas. <strong> Y claramente, al conectar con valores estamos conectando con personas, con lo humano, con lo que marca la diferencia. </strong> </p> <p> En síntesis, podemos afirmar que las personas no compran productos sino que estos son solo “medios” para satisfacer sus necesidades, valores y motivaciones. Comprar, definitivamente es un acto de motivación. Por ello, los vendedores más eficaces influyen positivamente en sus clientes, comunicando propuestas de valor que conectan con cada persona y promoviendo una mayor satisfacción. </p> <p> <strong> <em> *Carlos González, consultor, speaker y autor de “La Cara Humana de la Venta”. </em> </strong> </p>

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Thriving Amidst Chaos: How to Live Your Best Life in Lagos Streets

<p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1CQo0S" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1CQo0S.jpg"/> </p> <p> Have you been told numerous stories about Lagos, including tales of the stress and disorder one might encounter in daily life? Is this reputation alone sufficient to deter you from visiting? </p> <p> Like many other residents, you can still visit Lagos and live a calm, peaceful life. You just need to know how to conduct your personal affairs. </p> <p> This article offers advice on keeping your mental balance, safeguarding your tranquility, and flourishing in a metropolis famous for its congested roads and rapid pace of life. </p> <p> <strong> ALSO READ: </strong> <strong> Urban Streetwise 101: Tips for Evading Pressure from Lagos Touts </strong> </p> <h2> Learn to Let Go </h2> <p> Each day in Lagos will challenge your patience. You might be enjoying your preferred song during a traffic jam one moment, then suddenly, a danfo bus sprays water at you. Here’s the key: master the skill of moving on. Not all provocations warrant an answer, and not every difficulty requires your effort. Ignore certain taunts and continue living your life. This won’t diminish who you are. </p> <h2> Discover Your Lagos Bliss Routines </h2> <p> Whether it’s enjoying suya late at night, picking up some small chops post-work, or strolling across the Lekki-Ikoyi Bridge as the sun sets, find those fleeting instances that make Lagos worthwhile. Establish tiny routines that rejuvenate you and reaffirm your affection for this city, despite its occasional frustrations. </p> <h2> Invest in Noise-Cancelling Headphones </h2> <p> Due to the loud horns, street preachers, and unwanted sales pitches, finding tranquility comes at a premium. Tune in with headphones, block out the noise, and allow Burna Boy, WizKid, or Davido to accompany you during your journey. This is part of taking care of yourself. </p> <h2> Learn the “Lagos Look” </h2> <p> Each genuine resident of Lagos becomes adept at managing their facial expressions. This particular look conveys "I'm conscious, yet unaffected." It’s essential for navigating situations like someone cutting in line, being told “there’s no signal” by a vendor, or enduring a power outage from NEPA during an inconvenient moment. Use this skill wisely. </p> <h2> Create Space for Gentle Living Experiences </h2> <p> Indeed, the hustle culture thrives in Lagos, yet indulging in leisure is also your inherent right. Consider reserving a day for pampering at a spa, enjoying a meal during brunch at an upscale rooftop restaurant, or taking a staycation at a chic boutique hotel in Victoria Island. Lagos boasts numerous luxurious venues brimming with entertainment options. Embrace these experiences without reservation. </p> <h2> Surround Yourself with Positive Individuals </h2> <p> <strong> ALSO READ: </strong> <strong> Determine If You're Really Nigerian? Show It With These 15 Slangs and Pidgin Expressions </strong> </p> <p> The urban environment might seem daunting, yet having the perfect group of friends makes it manageable. Companions who can find humor in chaos, discuss the frustrations of Third Mainland Bridge traffic, and join in impromptu gatherings fueled by jollof rice are invaluable. Treasure these friendships closely. </p> <p> Thriving in Lagos doesn't mean avoiding the chaos; it means moving with it gracefully. Find joy in the quirks, appreciate its distinctive allure, and create your own serenity. Regardless of how intense, rapid, or spontaneous Lagos becomes, you have every right to flourish within it. </p>

Thriving Amidst Chaos: How to Live Your Best Life in Lagos Streets

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Can You Uncover the Hidden Bee in This Mind-Bending Illusion in Just 10 Seconds?

<p class="mol-para-with-font"> Are you prepared to challenge your observational abilities? If yes, then this fresh head-scratcher will surely hit the spot. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> The optical illusion, which includes a bee subtly concealed in the drawings of a young girl’s cartoonish bedroom, was posted by Twitter user Piyush Tiwari and demands a sharp gaze to notice. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Nested within this picture, showing a girl calmly asleep in bed with her lengthy, curly red tresses spread across her polka-dotted cushion, lies a tiny bee. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> The task is to identify the bee responsible for producing honey within only 10 seconds. Could you manage to figure it out? </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> The post confidently declares: "A concealed bee lurks within this mind-bending image puzzle; spotting it requires keen observational abilities. Put your detective skills to the test here." </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Therefore, activate a countdown for 10 seconds and begin your scan! </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Initially, the scene appears as a tranquil snapshot featuring two cats and a brown dachshund nestled together beside a slumbering girl. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> A third cat is seated on the floor, appearing to meow at its owner to rouse them—beside the bed, a phone shows the time as 6:15 am. </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1CmKPm" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1CmKPm.jpg"/> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> As the girl slumbers peacefully in her bed adorned with an orange polka-dot quilt, a buzzing bee lies in wait to be found. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Are you still puzzled? Do not fret, as this enigma is far more complex than it initially appears. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Should you require a clue, consider this: Pay attention to the lower portion of the picture. The bee is cleverly camouflaged within the backdrop, which makes it difficult to notice immediately with just a quick look. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Attempt to spot a tiny face or a pair of wings merging with the picture. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Haven't found it yet? </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Here’s another hint: This particular bee in the picture doesn’t have the usual black-and-yellow coloring. Instead, it has a distinct shade yet still brings to mind those cozy summertime hues. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Did you manage to see the bumblebee? </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> If your response was affirmative—congratulations! Your powers of observation are top-notch! If you were off the mark, no worries at all. It’s time we uncover the correct answer together. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Look at the cat resting at the base of the picture. Have you observed something unusual about the tabby's tail? </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1CmItF" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1CmItF.jpg"/> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> The bee, adorned with striking orange bands, seamlessly integrates itself within the cat’s tail, its head precisely at the end of it. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> The act of blending the color with the cat’s fur so perfectly that it becomes almost imperceptible to the naked eye unless one has an acute sense for intricate details is quite challenging. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Visual puzzles stand out as a special kind of mental challenges, providing notable advantages. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Be it concealed items, modified pictures, or designs that compel you to scrutinize the scene repeatedly, such optical tricks are entertaining as well as instrumental in enhancing your cognitive skills and sharpening your mental acuity. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Identifying concealed items improves your capacity to observe minor alterations in your environment. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Concentrating on illusions sharpens your brain’s ability to handle visual data more effectively. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> The more you stimulate your mind, the better it gets at tackling complex issues in daily life. </p> Read more

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Communication Expert Reveals One Small Change to Ditch Awkward Chit-Chat for Good

<img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1zdgIo" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1zdgIo.jpg"/> <p> Small talk It frequently receives negative feedback. Sometimes, it might seem uncomfortable, shallow, and insignificant—especially if you aren't executing it properly. </p> <p> However, it's one of the strongest assets in your collection to build relationships , project a confident aura and even boost your spirits. </p> <p> The issue with much of casual conversation is that it occurs mindlessly, implying that individuals often participate without much thought. asking questions They can already anticipate the responses to questions like: </p> <ul> <li> "How are you?" </li> <li> "How's the weather?" </li> <li> "How was your weekend?" </li> </ul> <p> Whenever you query theautopilot, you can nearly ensure that the answers will be as generic as thequestions themselves. </p> <ul> <li> I'm doing well, thank you. And how are you? </li> <li> "It's so cold!" </li> <li> I had a nice weekend, thank you for asking. What about you? </li> </ul> <p> Looking for a way to avoid mindless small talk? Try conversational threading . </p> <h4> The strength of conversation threading </h4> <p> Conversational threading is a method that fosters deeper engagement through the creation or exploration of “threads” — engaging snippets that promote smoother and more captivating dialogue. </p> <p> It can assist you in having more effective discussions in both your private and work-related interactions, regardless of the situation. job interview At a networking gathering, during a group discussion, at a social function, or waiting in queue for a café beverage. </p> <p> Here’s how you can utilize it: </p> <h3> Provide several topics for individuals to explore. </h3> <p> Suppose someone asks you the standard question, “How was your weekend?” Rather than providing a mundane response, you could reply, “I had an excellent time over the weekend! I went for a hike and also celebrated my niece’s birthday.” This gives them two potential topics to explore further; they may inquire about your hike or show interest in your niece. </p> <p> Below are additional examples designed to assist you in enhancing your responses to typical small talk openers: </p> <p> <strong> Question: </strong> What draws you to this [event/place]? </p> <p> <strong> Autopilot answer: </strong> "I'm here for work." </p> <p> <strong> Better answer: </strong> I’m here to gain deeper insights into [X topic], which will assist my team in achieving [Y goal]. It’s thrilling to connect with like-minded individuals. What brings you here today? </p> <p> <strong> Question: </strong> "How are you?" </p> <p> <strong> Autopilot answer: </strong> I'm doing well. As busy as ever, you understand how things go! </p> <p> <strong> Better answer: </strong> I'm doing well! Work has kept me quite busy lately, but I've just embarked on a new project that I find very thrilling. What about you? </p> <p> <strong> Question: </strong> "How's it going?" </p> <p> <strong> Autopilot answer: </strong> Everything is going well from my side. </p> <p> <strong> Better answer: </strong> I've been concentrating on finalizing [X project] and am eager to present it at the all-hands meeting next week. I would really appreciate hearing your feedback afterward! </p> <h3> Tug at other people's strands </h3> <p> Effective listening is crucial if you aim to spot leads to follow up on. Take for instance when you inquire about someone’s origins and they answer “San Francisco.” Typically, we tend to reciprocate by revealing our own hometowns, which can sometimes cause the dialogue to lose momentum. </p> <p> Rather than doing anything else, take hold of the piece of information you have been provided with and pose an additional query For example, "What do you enjoy most about residing there?" </p> <p> You have the option to share your personal stories about San Francisco to continue the dialogue. By revealing more about yourself, it typically encourages the other individual to become more forthcoming with their own information. </p> <p> If you find yourself unsure about how to keep a conversation going because the other person isn’t offering much to work with, try making an observation about your surroundings. This approach is especially effective during video calls when you can remark on or inquire about items in their environment, such as artwork, photographs, or even the chosen virtual backdrop. </p> <h3> Pose more effective questions to initiate discussions </h3> <p> To foster more interactive discussions, you can refine your casual questioning techniques to improve the flow of conversation. Consider this approach: </p> <p> <strong> Common question: </strong> "How are you?" </p> <p> <strong> Better question: </strong> "What are you excited to be working on?" </p> <p> <strong> Common question: </strong> "How was your weekend? </p> <p> <strong> Better question: </strong> "What was the highlight of your weekend?" </p> <p> <strong> Common question: </strong> What motivated your attendance at this event? </p> <p> <strong> Better question: </strong> What has been your most enjoyable insight until now? </p> <p> Keeping some standby questions readily available can be particularly useful when you're still honing this skill. </p> <h4> Use positive language </h4> <p> Adjusting your casual conversation queries and replies to incorporate more upbeat vocabulary—such as "excited," "highlights," and "favorites"—sets both you and the other individual up to view the discussion in a more favorable light. </p> <p> Make sure to use uplifting vocabulary when you interact with others going forward. 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Mereka dapat resah terkait persahabatan, menemukan pekerjaan sekolah rumit, stres dengan metode pembelajaran, atau kesulitan dalam interaksi dengan para guru. </p> <table class="pic_artikel_sisip_table"> <tr> <td> <div class="pic_artikel_sisip"> <div class="pic"> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1AAgWt" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1AAgWt.jpg"/> </div> </div> </td> </tr> </table> <p> Terkadang, bunda dan ayah mungkin kesulitan memahami apa yang menyebabkan kecemasan pada anak mereka. Langkah awal yang penting adalah mengenali faktor-faktor yang membuat sang buah hati merasa cemas agar kedua orangtua dapat mendukungnya dengan lebih baik. </p> <p> Jika Ibu menanyakan "Bagaimana hari kamu di sekolah?", kemungkinan besar anak Anda hanya akan membalas dengan jawaban singkat seperti "Sekedar biasa" atau "Lancar". Ini bisa berakhir tanpa hasil dan membuat si kecil merasa bahwa pertanyaan tersebut adalah ritual rutinitas belaka dari Ibu, tidak lebih daripada usaha untuk menyelidiki situasi sesungguhnya. </p> <table class="linksisip"> <tr> <td> <div class="lihatjg"> Hindari Mengatakan "Tidak" pada Anak, Berikut 10 Alternatif Katanya yang Lebih Baik </div> </td> </tr> </table> <h2 id="kata-pengganti-bagaimana-tadi-di-sekolah-menurut-ahli"> Apa yang terjadi di sekolah hari ini versi para pakar? </h2> <p> Psikolog Klinis untuk Anak, Tamara Glen Soles, PhD, menjelaskan bahwa daripada berkata 'Bagaimana tadi di sekolah?', bunda dapat mencoba pertanyaan alternatif seperti 'Apakah ada hal-hal tak terduga atau mengejutkan yang terjadi hari ini?' atau 'Adakah tantangan apa pun yang kamu hadapi hari ini?'. </p> <p> "Saat pertanyaannya makin spesifik, peluang untuk mendapat jawabannya juga menjadi lebih besar," katanya seperti dikutip dari laman tersebut. <em> Purewow </em> . </p> <p> Pada saat bersamaan, terapis Jacqueline Ravelo menekankan bahwa spesialisasi merupakan elemen penting untuk menerima respons dari si buah hati, Ibu. Melalui penyampaian pertanyaan yang berkualitas, Ibu dapat memulai percakapan berkelanjutan dengan sang anak. </p> <p> "Melalui pengajuan pertanyaan yang mendalam dan bermutu seperti 'Bagian apa dari harimu hari ini yang menjadi favoritmu?' atau 'Apakah tantangan terbesar yang dialami di sekolah?', Anda dapat memulai percakapan yang melebihi respon singkat serta memberikan peluang bagi kita untuk menyelidiki lebih dalam tentang anak tersebut," katanya. </p> <p> "Kamu bisa terus obrolannya dengan menanyakan hal-hal lebih jauh seperti, 'Bagaimana perasaanmu tentang ini?' atau 'Hal apa saja yang kurang disukai olehmu dalam situasi tersebut?' agar pembicaraan tetap berlanjut dan memberikan kesempatan pada si kecil untuk menyampaikan perasaan mereka secara natural," tambah Jacqueline. </p> <h2 id="cara-membuat-anak-rileks-sebelum-bercerita-dengan-bunda"> Cara Menenangkan Anak Sebelum Menceritakan Sesuatu pada Bunda </h2> <p> Dikutip dari laman <em> Purewow </em> , sejumlah pakar menjabarkan beragam metode yang dapat Ibu terapkan guna meredakan stres pada anak agar si kecil lebih nyaman dalam menceritakan pengalaman mereka. 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<p> Sleep is vital for both mental and physical well-being - despite this, numerous individuals find it challenging. </p> <p> Currently, specialists assert that your everyday activities might play a crucial role in improving your sleep quality at night. </p> <p> Even though it might seem paradoxical, what you do—or refrain from doing—during the day can greatly affect your sleep quality at night. </p> <p> The psychotherapist and sleep specialist Heather Darwall-Smith remarked, "Many believe that issues with sleeping begin once they hit the bed; however, actually, our daily lifestyle significantly influences the quality of our nighttime rest," she explains. </p> <p> If you find yourself wide awake at 3 AM, gazing at the ceiling and attempting to coerce yourself into sleeping, cease resisting. Sleep cannot be compelled. </p> <p> Darwall-Smith, whose upcoming book titled "How To Be Awake" is set to be released soon, elucidates that sleep comprises two mechanisms – first off, your circadian rhythm , the internal body clock This informs you about when to feel alert and drowsy, factoring in light exposure, activity levels, and daily habits, along with your body’s internal drive for sleep known as homeostatic sleep pressure. This pressure is connected to a substance called adenosine, which accumulates in your brain after waking up, enhancing your desire for rest. </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1zKdxD" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1zKdxD.jpg"/> <p> The longer you remain awake and active, the more intense this sleep drive becomes," she explains. "During nighttime, elevated adenosine levels assist you in falling asleep naturally. </p> <p> Both mechanisms function collaboratively throughout the full 24-hour cycle of day and night, creating an opportunity for sleep. Without sufficient accumulation of sleep pressure or when your internal circadian rhythm is misaligned, achieving restful sleep may prove difficult regardless of your desire for it. </p> <p> Moreover, our connections with others play a role in forming our neural pathways and can affect our sleep patterns as well, she notes. "An uncomfortable discussion, lingering conflict, or the sense of being overlooked may accompany us throughout the night," she adds. </p> <p> So rather than fixating on ways to improve your sleep, turn it around and consider this: How can I stay alert in a manner that allows sleep to occur effortlessly? </p> <p> Here is her guidance on how to accomplish this... </p> <h2> <strong> 1. Rise at the identical hour daily </strong> </h2> <p> Darwall-Smith points out that your internal clock functions best with regularity. When the wake-up time fluctuates—such as oversleeping following a poor night’s sleep or varying wake times throughout different days—it disrupts the whole sleep-wake rhythm. Maintaining a consistent morning awakening helps regulate the buildup of sleep pressure, ensuring that by nighttime, your body feels primed for slumber. </p> <p> If improving your sleep is your goal, focus first on changing just one aspect," she suggests. "Establishing this particular routine will set your internal clock, clarifying times when you should be alert and periods when your body knows it’s time to prepare for rest. </p> <p> To maintain this level of consistency, she recommends adhering to a consistent wake-up schedule—even on weekends—and promptly exposing oneself to natural light upon waking (which signals to the brain that it’s daytime). Additionally, she advises against trying to compensate for missed sleep because spending additional hours in bed can reduce sleep drive, thus complicating matters for the following night. </p> <h2> <strong> 2. Begin the day with mindfulness </strong> </h2> <p> The way you start your day influences how well you rest at night. If you jolt awake to a loud alarm only to spend time scrolling on your phone before rising, your body endures a stressful reaction every morning. This pattern sets the stage for a high-stress day followed by poor-quality sleep, according to Darwall-Smith. </p> <p> Your body clock depends on distinct cues during the morning—consistent timings, light exposure, and physical activity all help stabilize this. process "To collaborate with signals appearing 12-14 hours later that initiate the countdown to sleep," she clarifies. </p> <p> In addition to rising at the same time each day, she suggests heading outdoors or positioning yourself near a window as early as you can, since exposure to morning light helps synchronize your internal clock. </p> <p> Replace your alarm with a sunrise simulator, or choose a softer sound that won’t make your heart pound, and try not to feel hurried. </p> <p> She explains: “Slowing down – taking time for breakfast, moving with intention, and starting the day mindfully – reduces stress. A calmer morning sets the tone for a more balanced day, which supports better sleep at night.” </p> <h2> <strong> 3. Let your mind take a rest </strong> </h2> <p> If you pack each hour of the day with activities and continuous stimulation, your brain doesn't get an opportunity to unwind. Consequently, when it’s time for bed, rather than relaxing, your mind becomes overwhelmed cognitively and tries to tackle all matters simultaneously — replaying discussions, incomplete chores, and lingering concerns. </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1zGfo7" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1zGfo7.jpg"/> <p> To prevent this, Darwall-Smith recommends incorporating genuine breaks throughout the day—times when you’re not browsing social media or occupying yourself with trivial tasks. Allow your thoughts to drift freely through activities like daydreaming, gazing out the window, taking brief walks sans smartphone, and establishing 'mental exit points' such as lowering the lighting, reading, doing stretches, or tuning into calming audio. </p> <p> "When you permit yourself some periods of mental rest throughout the day, your brain won't overwhelm you with thoughts at night," she assures. </p> <h2> <strong> 4. Transform daytime into something distinct from nighttime </strong> </h2> <p> If you've spent an entire day sedentary and browsing through screens, your body may struggle to transition into sleep mode, as Darwall-Smith highlights. "Sleep occurs when there's a stark distinction between being awake and at rest—but if you have remained in a low-energy, low-activity condition throughout the day, this contrast becomes less pronounced," she elaborates. </p> <p> However, you don't need intense physical activity to establish a clear distinction between day and night—Darwall-Smith notes that studies indicate even minor motions like fidgeting, stretching, or changing positions can aid in regulating your circadian rhythm and sleep drive. </p> <p> Therefore, she recommends getting up each hour, whether it's for stretching purposes or simply moving around. Additionally, she suggests walking during conference calls and discussions within meetings. She also endorses fidgeting as this represents your body's method of staying active and involved. As she puts it, "It’s your body’s way of keeping itself engaged." </p> <h2> <strong> 5. Acknowledge unprocessed emotions </strong> </h2> <p> Darwall-Smith suggests that unaddressed feelings do not disappear when we shut our eyes, and this unresolved state can lead to sleeplessness. </p> <p> She emphasizes the importance of releasing stress, taking several deep breaths, signaling your body that it's alright to unwind, and establishing a routine indicating that the day has ended—perhaps with a soothing beverage and soft lights. "Recognize whatever is present," she suggests. "You don't have to resolve every issue before sleeping; however, discovering methods to identify and manage these feelings can be beneficial." </p> <h2> <strong> 6. Settle yourself </strong> </h2> <p> If you're experiencing emotional or physical unrest, you'll stay highly vigilant, according to Darwall-Smith. "When your nervous system remains in an alerted state, it won't prioritize sleep," she emphasizes. </p> <p> Recognize what is causing your unease and try using techniques like deep breathing, weighted blankets, and grounding exercises to make yourself feel more secure, she recommends. </p> <h2> <strong> 7. Don’t chase sleep </strong> </h2> <p> Darwall-Smith highlights that the more effort you put into controlling sleep, the more distant it tends to get. Therefore, she recommends abandoning your sleep tracker if it causes anxiety, relaxing strict guidelines for your bedtime rituals, and concentrating instead on making the most of your awake time. </p> <p> "Obsessing over sleep may transform it into a performance rather than letting it remain a natural, effortless experience," she explains. </p> <p> Rather than attempting to correct your sleep patterns, aim to stay awake in a manner that allows sleep to occur organically. The objective shouldn’t be sleep itself but rather living a life that fosters relaxation and restoration. </p> <p> However, she emphasizes that if you continually face difficulties sleeping even after implementing adjustments, you might be dealing with a sleep disorder, which makes it worthwhile to consult a medical practitioner. "Should sleep feel like an ongoing fight each night, remember that you shouldn’t tackle this challenge by yourself—assistance is accessible," she states. </p> <p> <em> "How To Be Awake (So You Can Sleep Through The Night)" by Heather Darwall-Smith is released by Harper NonFiction on February 27, with a price of £16.99. </em> </p> <p> The Independent stands out as the globe’s premier source of unbiased journalism, offering worldwide news, opinions, and insights tailored for those with an independent mindset. With a vast international audience composed of people who appreciate our reliable perspective and dedication to fostering constructive transformation, we continue to expand. Today more than ever, fulfilling our purpose of driving meaningful change remains crucial. </p>

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<img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1yBrJf" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1yBrJf.jpg"/> <p> <span> <b> </b> </span> , <span> <b> Jakarta </b> </span> - Drama Korea <strong> <em> Saat Hidup Memberikan Kamu Jeruk Kecil </em> </strong> sudah menarik perhatian sejak pertama kali dirilis, menghadirkan suasana yang hangat dan penuh emosi di latar belakang Pulau Jeju pada dekade 1950. Diproduseri oleh IU dan Park Bo Gum Drama ini menampilkan cerita cinta, pengorbanan, serta mimpi-mimpi yang menyentuh hati. </p> <p> </p> <p> Ae Sun merupakan wanita yang ambisius dengan cita-cita menjadi penyair. Kehidupan di Pulau Jeju menghadirkan rintangan baginya akibat adanya budaya patriarki. Meski demikian, dalam tantangan hidupnya tersebut, masih ada sosok Gwan Shik yang senantiasa membantu dan memberikan perlindungan padanya. </p> <p> Kisah tersebut menceritakan bagaimana mereka bertahan mengatasi rintangan yang meliputi perselisihan dalam keluarga serta kesulitan ekonomi, sejalan dengan upaya untuk mencapai ambisi pribadi dan menjaga hubungan asmara mereka. Di bawah ini terdapat beberapa informasi serupa tentang drama tersebut. </p> <h2> Menariknya Cerita Drama "When Life Gives You Tangerines" </h2> <h3> 1. Budaya Patriarki </h3> <p> <em> Saat Hidup Memberikan Kamu Jeruk Kecil </em> Berlokasi di Pulau Jeju pada dekade 1950-an. Di waktu itu, budaya patriarki masih mendominasi dalam masyarakat Korea. </p> <p> Serial ini menunjukkan bahwa wanita di Pulau Jeju hanya dapat memperoleh pendidikan dalam jumlah terbatas. Sejak usia muda, mereka sudah diajarkan untuk menjadi penyelam dan disebut sebagai haenyeo. </p> <p> Ae Sun berkembang menjadi wanita yang tidak ragu untuk mengungkapkan pandangannya. Akan tetapi, ironisnya, ini jadi suatu masalah lantaran sikap Ae Sun dipandang bertolak belakang terhadap aturan-aturan yang tengah berlaku. Pada zaman tersebut, seorang wanita dituntut agar bersikap rendah hati serta taat. </p> <h3> 2. Kehidupan Tiga Generasi </h3> <p> Serial drama ini memfokuskan pada kisah hidup tiga perempuan sekaligus dari keturunan pulau Jeju, yaitu ibunda Ae Sun, Gwang Rye; Ae Sun sendiri; serta putrinya, Geum Myeong. Ketiga tokoh utama tersebut memiliki perkembangan pribadi masing-masing dengan latar belakang unik - seperti harapan Gwang Rye bagi masa depan anak-anaknya yang tak ingin terjebak dalam profesi tradisional pengepulin laut atau 'haenyeo', cita-cita Ae Sun untuk jadi penyair, sampai usaha keras Geum Myeong merubah nasib demi melawan kemiskinan. </p> <h3> 3. Duduk Puncak Rating di Netflix </h3> <p> Mengutip dari <em> The Korea Times , </em> Drama ini sukses menempati posisi nomor satu pada platform Netflix di 10 negara, antara lain Korea Selatan, Hong Kong, Indonesia, dan Singapura. </p> <p> Di platform-media sosial, sejumlah besar pemirsa telah mengungkapkan tinjauan positif berkat jalannya kisah dramanya yang menarik dan tidak biasa. Tidak hanya itu, bahkan pada halaman tersebut, <em> My Drama List </em> , drama <em> Saat Hidup Memberikan Kamu Jeruk Kecil </em> meraih peringkat 8,7 untuk keempat episodenya yang awal. </p> <h3> 4. Mendeskripsikan Keseharian </h3> <p> <em> Saat Kehidupan Memberikanmu Jerukkestaria </em> menjadi menonjol berkat narasi yang membahas tentang aspek-aspekt dalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Sebagaimana dikutip dari <em> The Korea Times , </em> Kim Heon-sik, seorang guru besar bidang sosiologi dari Universitas Jungwon, menyebutkan bahwa acara tersebut cukup mencolok lantaran fokusnya terletak pada kisah hidup masyarakat awam tanpa membahas topik pasca-perang. Jalan ceritanya juga mudah dipahami dan dinikmati oleh segala usia. </p> <h3> 5. Tersaji Adegan Penerjunan Cinta </h3> <p> Drama ini memiliki banyak momen seru, termasuk adegan romantis unik yang diperankan oleh Gwan Shik. Di satu scene, ia melompat dari kapal lalu berenang menuju pantai hanya untuk memperlihatkan kesetiaannya kepada Ae Sun. Momen emosional tersebut pun ramai dibicarakan dan bahkan menjadi lelucon favorit para pemirsa. </p> <h3> 6. Kalimat yang Menginspirasi dan Bersinggungan dengan Kehidupan </h3> <p> Banyak pernyataan yang menarik hati dan menggetarkan. <em> relate </em> Dari percakapan dalam naskah drama tersebut. Di sebuah pemandangan sesudah perdebatan antara Ae Sun dan anaknya, Geum Myeong, ada narasi yang berisi, <em> Umat tua menghadapi kesesalan sebagai harta warisan, sementara keturunan mereka mewarisi dendam. </em> </p> <p> Kalimat mengesankan lain terungkap ketika Ae Sun kehilangan harapannya tentang impian di penghujung usia mudanya, seperti yang terdapat dalam kutipan tersebut, <em> Bagi mereka, musim semi bukan waktu untuk berkhayal, namun saatnya mengalahkan imajinasi. Mereka menerima hal ini secara rela. </em> </p> <p> <strong> THE KOREA TIMES | MYESHA FATIMA </strong> ikut berpartisipasi dalam menyusun artikel ini. </p> <p> </p>

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Jangan Jadi People Pleaser Berlebihan: Dampak Buruk, Cara Mengatasi, dan Manfaat Berkata “Tidak”

<img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1AB6X4" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1AB6X4.jpg"/> <strong> </strong> Menjadi seseorang yang ingin selalu membahagiakan orang lain tentu positif, namun bila terlampaui batasnya justru akan mencelakai diri Anda. Berbagai individu tak sadar bahwa bersikap sebagai seorang penghibur ekstrem sanggup melemahkan stamina, menimbulkan tekanan, dan malahan mencekal pertumbuhan personal mereka. <p> Oleh karena itu, perlu dipahami apa itu orang yang selalu ingin menyenangkan semua pihak, efek samping negatifnya, serta cara menanganinya supaya dapat mencapai keseimbangan dalam hidup. </p> <h2> Apa Itu People Pleaser? </h2> <p> Seorang people pleaser ialah individu yang terus-menerus mencoba memuaskan orang lain, meskipun itu berarti mengabaikan kenyamanan diri sendiri, penghabisan waktunya, serta keperluannya. Seringkali, mereka merasa gelisah ketika harus menolak tuntutan dari pihak lain akibat khawatir dipandang sebagai sosok yang bersikap egois atau acuh tak acuh. </p> <p> Walaupun mempunyai sifat positif serta peduli kepada orang lain sangat dihargai, menjadi orang yang terlalu ingin menyenangkan semua pihak dapat membawa risiko. Tidak sadar, individu tersebut mungkin akan kehilangan kontrol atas hidupnya sendiri dan cenderung mengandalkan pengakuan dari luar secara berlebihan. </p> <h2> Efek Buruk Terlalu Banyak Menjadi Orang Yang Selalu Mau Memuaskan orang Lain </h2> <p> Menjadi seorang people pleaser yang berlebihan tidak hanya melibatkan kecenderungan untuk selalu membuat orang lain senang, namun juga bisa membawa dampak buruk yang cukup besar pada kualitas hidup seseorang. Hal tersebut mampu menghabiskan banyak tenaga, menahan pertumbuhan pribadi, dan bahkan turut merusak kondisi psikologis serta perasaan secara keseluruhan. </p> <p> Apabila dibiarkan terjadi secara kontinu, individu yang senantiasa mencoba untuk memenuhi ekspektasi orang di sekitarnya tanpa memikirkan keperluan diri mereka sendiri bisa menemui beragam konsekuensi merugikan. Ini meliputi peningkatan tekanan hidup, rasa kurang bernilai, sampai pada hilangnya kontrol atas jalan hidup mereka masing-masing. Inilah beberapa efek samping negatif dari perilaku menjadi orang yang suka menyenangkan semua pihak tersebut: </p> <h3> 1.Stres dan kelelahan mental </h3> <p> Saat seseorang kerap kali lebih mementingkan kebutuhan orang di sekitarnya tanpa membatasi dirinya, kondisi tersebut bisa menimbulkan tekanan jangka panjang serta lelah psikis. Tuntutan untuk senantiasa membahagiakankan pihak lain dapat menjadikan individu itu merasa tertekan secara emosi, khususnya apabila dia tiada hentinya mengabaikan waktunya, tenaganya, dan keperluannya sendiri. </p> <h3> 2.Rendahnya rasa percaya diri </h3> <p> Apabila seseorang sangat mengandalkan pengakuan dari pihak luar, dia akan lebih sering mencurigai keterampilan serta keputusannya sendiri. Tidak bisa memahami bagaimana caranya bertindak dengan independen saat menentukan suatu hal bisa menyebabkan individu tersebut merasa kurang mumpuni atau bukan apa-apa tanpa adanya persetujuan dari sekitarnya. Hal ini nantinya dapat menjadikan mereka bimbang, khawatir gagal, dan kesulitan untuk maju di segi personal ataupun karier. </p> <h3> 3.Kesulitan berkata “tidak” </h3> <p> Perasaan khawatir menyakitkan hati orang lain biasanya mengakibatkan sebagian besar individu kesulitan untuk menolak permintaan, walaupun berlawanan dengan kemauan pribadinya. Sehingga, mereka lebih condong untuk setuju atas beban kerja atau komitmen yang tidak diminati dan ini bisa memberikan dampak negatif pada kesehatan fisik serta mental mereka. </p> <h3> 4.Kurangnya batasan diri </h3> <p> Tanpa adanya aturan yang pasti, individu tersebut rentan menjadi target bagi orang lain yang mungkin memandang kesopanan mereka sebagai peluang untuk pengambilalihan. Hal ini menyebabkan mereka kerap kali harus menuruti tuntutan tanpa henti, termasuk di dalam kondisi-kondisi yang semestinya dapat dinafkahkan. Kekurangan pedoman ini juga menciptakan dampak negatif seperti hilangnya kontrol atas waktu pribadinya, pengecutan hak-hak dasarnya, dan pada gilirannya menjalin perasaan tertindih dan lelah secara fisikal maupun mental. </p> <h3> 5.Ketidakseimbangan dalam hubungan </h3> <p> Orang-orang penurut kerapkali terseret ke dalam ikatan yang kurang baik lantaran mereka cenderung mengedepankan kenyamanan pihak lain daripada memenuhi keperluan diri sendiri. Hal tersebut bisa membentuk pola interaksi yang timpang, tempat mereka selalu berbagi tetapi jarang mendapat balasan yang sama rata. Berkepanjangan begitu, orang-orang penurut umumnya merasa dilemahkan dan justru tertelantar dalam situasi perkawinan yang merugikannya. </p> <h2> Bagaimana Menangani Kebiasaan Menjadi Orang yang Terlalu Penyayang </h2> <p> Apabila Anda menyadari adanya kebiasaan tersebut, berikut adalah beberapa metode yang dapat dicoba untuk menanganinya: </p> <h3> 1.Pengenali dan Terima Ternyata Kebiasaan Ini </h3> <p> Pertama-tama, sadarilah bila perilaku menjadi orang yang selalu ingin memuaskan semua pihak telah melampaui batas normal. Usahakan untuk melakukan refleksi diri serta tuliskan skenario ketika Anda merasa dipaksa untuk mengikuti keinginan orang lain. </p> <h3> 2.Mempelajari Cara Menyampaikan "Tidak" Secara Tajam </h3> <p> Menyampaikan "tidak" tidak berarti kamu bersikap serakah. Sebaliknya, hal itu merupakan ungkapan untuk memuliakan diri sendiri. Dimulailah dengan penolakan yang dilakukan secara santun tetapi pastilah jelas. Berikut adalah sebuah contohnya: </p> <p> Saya minta maaf, namun saya tak dapat membantu pada waktu ini dikarenakan adanya tugas yang perlu saya rampungkan terlebih dahulu. </p> <h3> 3.Tetapkan Batasan yang Sehat </h3> <p> Membatasi batas merupakan metode yang tepat sasaran untuk menjaga diri. Tidak perlu secara otomatis menyetujui keinginan pihak lain ketika hal tersebut dapat membahayakan kesejahteraan personal Anda. </p> <h3> 4.Prioritaskan Diri Sendiri </h3> <p> Harap diperhatikan bahwa mengutamakan diri sendiri tidak berarti Anda menjadi takpedaian terhadap orang lain. Malahan, saat Anda senang dan bertenaga cukup, Anda dapat mendukung orang lain secara efektif tanpa merasakan beban. </p> <h3> 5.Latih Kepercayaan Diri </h3> <p> Percayakan pada kemampuan diri sendiri dengan mengetahui kualitas dan bakat Anda. Jangan khawatir apabila terdapat individu yang kurang setuju atas transformasi ini, sebab hal tersebut merupakan elemen dalam perkembangan personal. </p> <h2> Keuntungan dari Mengurangi Perilaku Menjadi Orang yang Terlalu Ingin Memuaskan Semua orang </h2> <p> Saat Anda berhasil membatasi kebiasaan tersebut, sejumlah manfaat dapat diraih, antara lain: </p> <ul> <li> <p> Kehidupan menjadi lebih damai tanpa adanya beban harapan oranglain. </p> </li> <li> <p> Menambah keyakinan diri saat membuat pilihan. </p> </li> <li> <p> Lebih mengutamakan sasaran personal tanpa tersibukkan oleh tuntutan yang tak penting. </p> </li> <li> <p> Membangun relasi yang lebih baik berkat dasar kebenaran tanpa paksaan. </p> </li> <li> <p> Menurunkan tingkat stres dan kelelahan psikologis, sehingga mencapai keadaan yang lebih bahagia dan efektif dalam beraktivitas. </p> </li> </ul> ]]>

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How an Expert Beats Imposter Syndrome: Practical Tips Revealed

<p> Are you frequently feeling overwhelmed? Do you believe that you come across as fraudulent or inadequate? fraud To have reached your current position in life? </p> <p> If that's the case, you might have imposter syndrome . </p> <p> Impostor syndrome refers to a psychological condition where one doubts their skills and legitimacy, constantly fearing they will be unmasked as an impostor, according to a psychotherapist. Jess Henley , writer of the newly released book "Find Your Path Through Imposter Syndrome." </p> <p> She mentions that it can impact individuals across various situations, whether at work, during sports activities, while taking care of kids, or simply discussing specific subjects. </p> <p> "The predominant sentiment is one of being overwhelmed, as though you're in over your head, believing that everyone else realizes this, and fearing that you'll be exposed, criticized, and mocked," she clarifies. </p> <p> For some people, this is just a fleeting sensation that loses significance with a little introspective thought. However, for others, it can torment them around the clock and significantly erode their sense of self-worth and confidence. </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1y6Og3" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1y6Og3.jpg"/> <p> She mentions that this issue is quite widespread and notes, "Imposter syndrome has grown much more familiar, leading many individuals to identify their experiences with it. However, some may still feel inadequate or fraudulent without recognizing these sentiments as symptoms of imposter syndrome." </p> <p> It ultimately boils down to your self-belief and fundamental convictions. </p> <p> Henley suggests that the apprehension of being 'exposed' as inadequate can underlie numerous mental health problems such as anxiety, depression, perfectionism, loneliness, and exhaustion. Consequently, it is essential for individuals recognizing themselves with impostor syndrome to address this issue promptly so it doesn’t negatively impact their lives. </p> <p> “Many individuals grapple with significant anxiety due to imposter syndrome,” she clarifies. “Often, they fail to recognize that their anxiety stems from this very condition.” </p> <p> She explains that anxiety can manifest physically with symptoms such as a rapid heartbeat, feelings of panic, difficulty breathing, and excessive perspiration. Additionally, it may lead to issues like sleeplessness, cognitive fuzziness, and exhaustion. </p> <p> Alongside anxiety, individuals experiencing imposter syndrome might also experience depressive symptoms. As Henley points out, "Imposter syndrome is accompanied by significant negative self-talk, which frequently contributes to feelings of depression. Additionally, this condition can result in feelings of isolation since those affected tend to conceal their true selves due to a lack of belief in their capabilities or worthiness. This tendency to withdraw further compounds the sense of solitude." </p> <p> Despite being among others, you might still experience loneliness since your true self remains hidden from everyone else. </p> <p> A potential consequence could be perfectionism — always aiming for flawlessness, as Henley points out, something typically unattainable. "It’s impossible to reach. Consequently, you find yourself continually falling short, thus strengthening the conviction that you're inadequate since your own impeccable standard remains unreachable." </p> <div> <span data-embed-id="28764043dea9439291df4a90a0bd734a" data-embed-type="social-auto"> </span> </div> <p> Henley notes that many individuals have encountered a fleeting sense of being 'in over one’s head' or anxiety at various times throughout their life—such as starting a new position or joining an unfamiliar sports team. These sensations are normal and tend to dissipate once you become accustomed to your role or manage to score with your new squad. </p> <p> Everyone can experience anxiety over various situations — whether it’s having an interview, giving a presentation at your job, or even for some parents, approaching the school gate can seem quite daunting," explains Henley. "However, what sets imposter syndrome apart is that underlying belief within oneself. </p> <p> So if you're experiencing anxiety over an issue, once you set aside that anxious feeling and dig deep into yourself, you recognize your capability, unlike the imposter who doesn't. </p> <p> The person experiencing impostor syndrome believes they aren't truly competent, feeling as though they only achieved success through luck rather than skill. Even with numerous academic accomplishments or successful job interviews, and despite concrete evidence suggesting they deserve their current position, this individual’s fundamental conviction remains that they do not measure up. </p> <p> Even though someone might be feeling anxious — since we all experience anxiety from time to time as part of being human — they can still possess a strong sense of self. </p> <p> Henley suggests that the reason varies for each individual, yet much of the issue originates from unfavorable self-perception. She elaborates: "This deficiency arises from a lack of confidence and belief in oneself. Beliefs do not rely on factual grounds whatsoever; there is no proof validating their accuracy. This characteristic actually serves as an advantage since these beliefs aren’t grounded in reality—thus, they have the potential to be altered." </p> <p> “Surely, a belief is something you've likely clung to for quite some time. It might be tough to question them, but that’s exactly what you should do.” </p> <p> The main approach to overcoming imposter syndrome involves addressing negative self-perception, and Henley provides numerous beneficial activities in her publication, such as practicing mindfulness and using tapping techniques. </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1y6ydT" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1y6ydT.jpg"/> <p> She states: "A major aspect of imposter syndrome is that it isn't anchored in the current moment. Instead, it dwells either in future uncertainties or past doubts—such as 'I didn't measure up,' or 'What if they realize I'm not capable?'" </p> <p> “None of it is truly addressing what’s happening right here and now.” </p> <p> That’s precisely why mindfulness strategies can be highly beneficial, according to her, since they assist in calming things down at the moment. "In the here and now, you're likely fine because we must keep in mind that individuals experiencing impostor syndrome are actually quite competent." </p> <p> There isn't any proof suggesting they're unable to accomplish things; that's merely their belief about themselves. However, the real evidence demonstrates that they have the ability to achieve these tasks, and they are quite competent and can be highly successful. </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1y6GVZ" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1y6GVZ.jpg"/> <p> Henley suggests that individuals experiencing imposter syndrome should attempt to uncover the roots of their negative self-perceptions. "By gaining insight into these origins, you can begin to question them," he explains. "With time, you may be able to dismiss these false notions and gradually dismantle such beliefs." </p> <p> She mentions that individuals can seek assistance from literature or counseling if their impostor syndrome becomes severe. She further states, "There's no need to endure this alone. It is possible to address and substantially diminish it. Therefore, if it hinders your everyday life considerably, I would strongly advise taking steps to combat it since it doesn't necessarily have to be an ongoing aspect of your routine." </p> <p> The Independent stands out as the globe’s premier source of unbiased reporting, offering worldwide news, insights, and examination tailored for those with an independent mindset. With a vast international audience comprising people who appreciate independence and trust our dedication to fostering positive transformation, we continue to thrive. Today more than ever, fulfilling our purpose of driving meaningful change remains crucial. </p>

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Why You Feel Like You're Falling Into a Void When Falling Asleep

<img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1CnRfI" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1CnRfI.jpg"/> <p> There you are, lying down at last. Fresh sheets, soft pillow, your body slowly gives way, your thoughts become more blurred... when suddenly, a strange sensation of freefall tears you from your tranquility. Your heart leaps, your muscles tense, and you wonder: "But what just happened?!" Don't worry, you have simply experienced what is called a hypnic startle, a little sleep quirk. </p> <h2> What is a hypnic startle? </h2> <p> A hypnic startle , or "sleep startle," is a sudden, completely involuntary muscle contraction that occurs at the very beginning of falling asleep. It can be accompanied by surprising sensations: a feeling of falling, a flash dream (often a bit bizarre), or even a jolt of the whole body. </p> <p> This phenomenon is perfectly natural and doesn't indicate anything abnormal. It's simply a false start to sleep: your body begins to relax, and so does your brain... but sometimes, one of you wants to go faster than the other, and this causes this mini "glitch" in the sleep onset phase. </p> <h2> Why this feeling of falling? </h2> <p> Researchers do not all agree on the precise origins of the hypnic startle, but several interesting explanations have been put forward: </p> <ul> <li> <strong> A somewhat turbulent transition: </strong> When you go from wakefulness to sleep, your brain slows down. This change can sometimes create a kind of desynchronization in the signals sent to your muscles, hence the sudden contraction. </li> <li> <strong> Stress can be a real spoilsport: </strong> if you've had an exhausting day, filled with emotion or anxiety, your brain may have a harder time switching to rest mode. As a result, you may experience a sudden jump as a defensive reflex. </li> <li> <strong> Stimulants don't help: </strong> coffee, tea, energy drinks, or even a small square of dark chocolate too late in the evening... All of these can keep your nervous system on edge, even at bedtime. </li> <li> <strong> A legacy from our ancestors: </strong> Some theories suggest that this reaction could be an ancient survival mechanism. For our tree-dwelling ancestors, falling asleep while sleeping on a branch was not a metaphor, but a real threat. The startle would therefore be an archaic reflex intended to check that we don't lose our balance while falling asleep. </li> </ul> <h2> Should we be worried about these nighttime jolts? </h2> <p> In a word: no. In the vast majority of cases, these jolts are benign and not pathological. They are one of the many little quirks our body exhibits when it goes into standby mode. </p> <p> That said, if you experience these jolts several times a night, to the point where you have trouble falling asleep, or if they are accompanied by pain, severe anxiety, or heart rhythm disturbances, then it would be appropriate to discuss it with a doctor. It's not so much the jolt itself that's worrying, but what it could reveal if it becomes too frequent or intense. </p> <h2> How to avoid them (or at least limit them)? </h2> <p> There is no magic formula to completely eradicate hypnic bursts, but adopting good sleep hygiene can greatly reduce their frequency: </p> <ul> <li> <strong> Adopt a regular schedule: </strong> The body loves routine. Try to go to bed and get up at the same time every day, even on weekends (yes, we know, it's hard) . </li> <li> <strong> Avoid stimulants late in the day: </strong> this includes caffeine, nicotine, alcohol and… ultra-intense series right before bed. </li> <li> <strong> Create a cocoon conducive to relaxation: </strong> dim the lights, put your phone on airplane mode, and choose a calm, subdued, and pleasant atmosphere. Your sleep deserves a scene from an art house film, not an episode of a suspense series. </li> <li> <strong> Try relaxation techniques: </strong> gentle yoga, mindful breathing, quiet reading… these are all ways to signal to your brain that it's time to switch off. </li> <li> <strong> Move during the day: </strong> a well-used body, with regular and appropriate physical activity, will more naturally find the path to restorative sleep. </li> </ul> <h2> Your body doesn't betray you, it speaks to you. </h2> <p> These nighttime jolts can be surprising, even worrying, but above all, they are a beautiful testament to the complexity and sensitivity of your body. It is constantly adapting, always listening, even when you are drifting off to sleep. What if we took a kinder look at these minor malfunctions? Yes, your leg has decided to bounce as if you were on an invisible trampoline, but this simply means that your body is preparing to enter a phase essential for your physical, mental, and emotional balance. </p> <p> The sensation of falling into a void while falling asleep is an unsettling but perfectly normal experience. It's a fascinating facet of our transition to sleep, a small wink from our slightly overzealous nervous system. The next time you jump before drifting off into your dreams, remind yourself that it's not a glitch... it's just a system update. </p>

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Experts reveal the seven odd behaviors linked to a high IQ

<ul class="mol-bullets-with-font"> <li class=""> <strong> READ MORE: <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-13659215/IQ-test-Yale-math-questions.html"> Only 20% of Harvard students aced this three-question IQ test </a> </strong> </li> </ul> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Some of the greatest minds, such as Albert Einstein and Charles Darwin, exhibited strange behaviors like solitude and burning the midnight oil. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> And while the world may have found those habits as odd, numerous studies have linked them to having high IQs. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> That is because <span> our daily practices have a big impact on our intelligence - and can even change the way we think. </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> And <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3519065/What-does-music-taste-say-online-quiz-caring-sociable-obsessive-stickler-rules.html"> psychologists have pinpointed </a> at least seven strange behaviors that they believe are signs of a genius. </span> </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1oIZ4I" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1oIZ4I.jpg"/> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <strong> <strong> 1. Talking to yourself </strong> </strong> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> If you talk to yourself, you're not crazy. It may actually be a sign that you're smarter than the average person. </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> Even though this behavior is somewhat irrational, a growing body of evidence has suggested that it has big cognitive benefits - including better memory recall, confidence, focus and more. </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> In a 2012 study, a team of American researchers showed participants 20 pictures of various objects and asked them to find a a specific one. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Scientists found that people who talked to themselves while looking at the images were able to identify the object faster. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> Another study, conducted in 2017 by UK researchers, discovered that our brains act much like those of monkeys when we stop talking to ourselves - activating separate visual and sound areas of the brain for each task. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> In the experiment, researchers asked participants to repeat meaningless sounds out loud, such as 'blah-blah-blah,' while performing visual and sound tasks. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> 'Because we cannot say two things at the same time, muttering these sounds made participants unable to tell themselves what to do in each task,' Paloma Mari-Beffa, senior lecturer at Bangor University, wrote in <a href="https://theconversation.com/is-talking-to-yourself-a-sign-of-mental-illness-an-expert-delivers-her-verdict-77058"> The Conversation </a> . </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> 'Under these circumstances, humans behaved like monkeys do, activating separate visual and sound areas of the brain for each task.' </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> So the next time you're caught muttering to yourself, don't be embarrassed. That strange habit is helping you process information and stay sharp. </p> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <strong> <strong> 2. Staying up late </strong> </strong> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> The early bird may get the worm, but evidence has suggested that night owls actually have higher IQs. </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-13620635/Night-owls-sharper-brain-function-morning-people.html"> A study, published in January, analyzed </a> data from 26,000 adults, finding those who stay up late scored significantly higher on cognitive tests than early risers. </span> </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1oIX5B" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1oIX5B.jpg"/> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> Night owls scored about 13.5 percent  higher than morning types in one group and 7.5 percent higher than morning types in another group. </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> Many brilliant minds have been known to have nocturnal habits, including Darwin and Marcel Proust. </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> If your mind is most active while the rest of the world sleeps, you may have a high IQ. </span> </p> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <span> <strong> <strong> 3.  Daydreaming </strong> </strong> </span> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> Getting lost in daydreams is often perceived as absent-mindedness. But scientists have said that this is actually a sign that you're smart and creative. </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> 'People with efficient brains may have too much brain capacity to stop their minds from wandering,' said Eric Schumacher, a Georgia Tech associate psychology professor, said in a statement. </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> His research found that people who report more frequent daydreaming score higher on intellectual and creative ability tests. </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> MRI scans also showed that these people had more efficient brain systems. </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> This evidence suggests that daydreaming is actually a great workout for your brain. So if you find your mind wandering, that's a good sign. </span> </span> </p> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <span> <span> <strong> <strong> 4. Thriving in clutter </strong> </strong> </span> </span> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> Some people can't stand a messy room or desk. But the highly intelligent don't seem to mind it - or perhaps even prefer it. </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> A team of researchers set out to determine why that is. They put study participants in either a messy or tidy office space and asked them to come up with new uses for ping pong balls. </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> Though both groups came up with a similar number of ideas, the researchers found that the participants in the messy room came up with more creative and interesting ideas. </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> 'Disorderly environments seem to inspire breaking free of tradition, which can produce fresh insights,' said Kathleen Vohs, lead scientist behind the experiment, in a press release. </span> </span> </span> </p> <img data-document-id="cms/api/amp/image/AA1oIPBa" data-reference="image" src="https://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/AA1oIPBa.jpg"/> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> 'Orderly environments, in contrast, encourage convention and playing it safe.' </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> So, leaving your space untidy may help you think outside the box. </span> </span> </span> </p> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <span> <span> <span> <strong> <strong> 5. Asking lots of questions </strong> </strong> </span> </span> </span> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> If you're constantly asking how things work, where they come from, and dozens of other questions that pop into your head, you're probably highly intelligent. </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> Curiosity is one of the most common signs of brightness. It's a sign that your mind is always seeking to understand the world around you. </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> It also means that you're always learning and storing new information. The more questions you ask, the more your understanding expands. </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> To some, it may seem annoying. But for people with high IQs, this insatiable curiosity is natural. </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> As Einstein once said, 'I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.' </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <strong> <strong> 6. Being introverted </strong> </strong> </span> </span> </span> </span> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> Many geniuses have been known to hide themselves away to work or think in peace and quiet. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> It makes sense - it can be difficult to focus while surrounded by the constant chatter and stimulation of a social environment. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> Plus, studies have shown that introverts tend to engage in deeper cognitive processing than extroverts. They tend to think more thoroughly and critically, which can be associated with a higher IQ. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> Introverts also tend to prefer activities that require concentration and sustained mental effort, such as reading and research, which can foster intellectual development. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <h2 class="mol-para-with-font mol-style-subhead"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <strong> <strong> 7. Devouring books </strong> </strong> </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </h2> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> Avid readers are constantly learning new information, vocabulary words, complex ideas and different perspectives. It's like a workout for the mind. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> Additionally, reading helps strengthen mental focus, imagination and our ability to empathize with others. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> People who read a lot are constantly developing their intelligence, which means they're more likely to have a high IQ. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> Take business mogul and investor Warren Buffet for example. He spends almost eight hours a day reading. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> So if you constantly have your nose in a book, you're actually getting smarter by the page. </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </span> </p> <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-13736895/Experts-reveal-seven-odd-behaviors-linked-high-IQ.html"> Read more </a>

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